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Meet… Gyro!

Yet another Neighborhood Cat name. :) I’ve named two other kittens as well – Alexandra and Kit.

Oh, and Jag! He looked just like a mini jaguar – so sleek and everything!

Anyways, this unwanted, yet very persistent visitor has gotten the name Gyro. I hope he doesn’t stay, but instead finds someone who can give in to his pleas!!

What happens when you take a photo with photo booth and 1...2...3...

What happens when you take a photo with photo booth and 1…2…3…Meow!

Photo on 10-8-15 at 5.59 PM #2

The photo quality is weird… I know…

He really understands people, and I’m very surprised he didn’t come from living with one, since he knows pretty much every manner of begging and how to read body language — that is if it’s not “go away and find a home!” body language. That he is completely resistant to…

Hopefully he follows my advice soon, though… :)


How are you doing lately??


Disasters, Hope, and My Brain

I don’t really have a tidy synopsis, or finishing sentence for this post, but it was a talk and a thinking conclusion I wanted to share because it weighed on my mind at first, until I thought about it. I thought hearing about it may help someone? :D

I was with a co-worker at my new internship, and we were talking future dreams. After she told me about hers, which was absolutely incredible, she asked about mine?

I told her my – rather overwhelming – spiel that is very hard to explain.

The basic idea of it is, though, that I want to work disaster relief in sudden crises, like natural disasters, and things like this.

She said, “I couldn’t do that. It’d be too sad.”

This took me aback.

Why hadn’t I thought about that?

Wow, am I super heartless?

Well, I had considered the shock, and overwhelming sadness factor of the possible circumstances, and dismissed it. This due to the times I’ve been in the most sudden and immense crises I’ve faced, and I have a mode where it doesn’t bother me, and I focus on doing what needs to be done. Falling apart isn’t actually in me, I just do stuff. Since I know when faced with a crisis, I can be a helper, I thought I could utilize this by going into disaster situations.

Did I really just dismiss the sadness of thousands of deaths that I may face, by saying I have the job qualifications?

Actually, no. That just made me consider the job.

What made me not even think of how terrible it would be is the one thing that keeps me going.

And it’s that super cliché and over-used story about the beach full of starfishes. But, the thing is it speaks to me, and helps me realize what, in impossible circumstances, makes little changes MATTER.

In case you haven’t heard it, (or could use hearing it again), it is this.

A man is walking along a beach covered with starfish. As far as the eye can see, there are dying starfish everywhere, too many to save, too many to fathom.

But this man is walking along, picking up a starfish, and throwing it back into the sea. And repeating this life-saving action over and over again. But you can’t even tell, the beach is covered with them still.

So, another guy walks up to him. “Why even bother?” he asks, “There’s no way you’re going to make a difference!”

The guy doesn’t say anything for a moment, stoops to pick up another starfish, and throws it into the sea.

“For that one, I made a difference.” He replies.

You may not change the whole world, but you can change someone’s whole world.

This story, and this sentence constantly serve to re-center my mind.

And until the coworker mentioned it, that was all I had thought about with disaster relief. I didn’t think about the sadness, the giant loss of life, all I thought about was the possible difference and real-help I could provide. That was my sole thought, and why I was so eager to get trained so I could be able throw myself in these situations and start helping.

(Bt-dub, the original, it seems:)



Do you have any stories or quotes that keep you going in your darkest time, or when you start to lose hope?

Have you ever thought you were heartless, but something turned it around, or you had to adjust something?

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Thinking On My Feet

“Okay, but when you’re petting a nervous animals, don’t lose eye contact with them,” she said, as the conversation finished.

From then on, my brain processed this. A simple sentence that was probably common in training. But something felt so wrong about it in my brain.

I wanted to quit. Was it because I didn’t like being told what to do? Of course not, I’d been training until now, and been fine.

What was it?

It was that I had this figured in my head a certain way. And I knew that if I changed to the way she wanted me to think about it, I would be acting on rules, that would make me appear stiffer, and make the situation so much harder.

That’s why I quit my absolute favorite thing in the world, before. It stopped being ‘the thing’, and became a list of rules. I wasn’t enjoying it, I was just constantly forgetting and breaking one rule or another.

I was not allowed to experiment, and the rules were all I had to go off of, and if I should forget to follow just one, “death would come” was the threat that hung over me.

What was different with the last place I did this same exact thing? Restraining animals – some who’s last experience with humans had been traumatic, some who’d never been handled by humans, and so on? What made that very potentially-threatening place not a list of rules?


I am scrappy, apparently. I think on my feet. I take in a large amount of information, and am better at reacting than being proactive.

So was the person I worked with. She was more of a get in there and do it kind of person and so we would both do it, and stay safe, and get the animals what they needed.

That large amount of information I want before acting, also comes to be a disadvantage – people misunderstand my knowledge gathering for any number of things, and today, it came in the form of the rebuke.

It’s completely counter to my way of thinking to think, “I have an animal here who would like to bite me, maybe. Let’s turn away our eyes, AND take our hands off.” Like… no.

If I keep my hand on his back half, he can’t bite me before I react. But if I take off my hand, he could bite me and I’d never see it coming. It’s an information gathering.

Trust the person holding the leash? I’m sorry, is that a foreign language?

I realized I’m very used to doing things on my own. And as a family, we are very used to doing things on our own. We know it’s stupid to not accept help, but the truth is, very few people have wanted to help us. So, I’m used to jumping in and lending help wherever it’s needed.

I like that about us.

Taking a step back and letting others do things is something I can do, but I’m ill practiced.

And, when, as “they” said it’s a matter of life or death, I don’t really want to put that into someone else’s hands. Literal hands.

So it ate at me… But still, why?

Because I knew that I want to follow her advice, because she is training me, and I want to be a good listener. But either it becomes a rule that I will forget, and then follow, and then have to be running words through my head when I’m trying to do something intricate, or I will not follow it at all.

Those are bad options!

So, I decided to visualize it.

It bothered me so much imagining losing eye contact with the animal and not keeping contact with it so I knew what it was thinking, feeling, and whether it was behind me ready to attack.. and keeping contact with a potential threat is not an instinct I want to lose, so I decided to visualize it in that spot. All other spots I can stick with instinct. But in that spot, the “spot” being the place I’m being trained at, my first go-to must be to “remove eye contact, remove hand contact”.

I think this will help.

If I go with my instincts, I’m usually pretty close to helping well. It’s when I start trying to follow rules and things that I become weaker.

But some instincts are made by rules. I didn’t learn to go around the back-end of a horse, petting them the whole time, by instinct. That was ingrained by practice, observation and verbal re-instatement. So, I want to be open.

But the interesting thing, is it does seem to be that the less I have to check-in with people, the stronger I am.

I have a store of examples to fall on. I gather them subconciously from the environment, from movies and TV, from the other people I’ve seen in my job, but I am not sure this explains it wholely.

I can plunge into a situation, and handle it myself, and just make it up as I go along. [<– one of my favorite things!] But if I’m told, “This has to be checked by me” and “Don’t do this without asking me” or “Ask me if you have a question about this kind of thing” – each successive thing makes me weaker.

But, it’s a very good idea to have me be able to ask questions, but the truth is, in that you are not seeing the strongest me.

In holding an animal I will follow my instincts. I’ve learned that that usually works best. I also have to observe A LOT, and learn the rules. But, it’s so annoying when you follow your instincts and then are told to go opposite them, and when you do, something bad happens, but then you’re like “It’s not my fault, but it’s totally my fault”.

In summation – ie. what my head made as it’s “This is what we learned today, and this is your game-plan” paragraph: To do my best at my job, I want to gather information and I want to improvise/use my intuition, so visualizing counter-intuitive (to me) rules can help me with this, while still being a good listener, and helping the best way I know how – by thinking on the spot. :)

Meanwhile, Rimfire is sitting beside me – he is so cute! *squees internally*


Do you prefer on the spot, or pre-planned when you are working?


Books and Yogurt

Some thoughts from my brain, tonight…

Growing up reading British books, means that I don’t know if it’s American to spell gray, “gray” or “grey”. I still read a lot of British classics, and a few new British authors. Doesn’t it seem like 99% of the cited classics are British?

It also gave me some advanced vocabulary, strange words to use, and an affinity for using ‘gh’ in my spelling. It feels more regal, and it’s not wrong to use it depending on what country I use it in. :)

I’m eating some yogurt. It’s whole-milk plain yogurt – my favorite to buy, no matter the brand – because there are no additives in it. :)

I added some stevia, and some vanilla extract, and sprinkled in chocolate chips.

Then let it sit so the chocolate chips could soften, and, well, yeah, the yoghurt could be a little less cold, so I could taste it, and not just feel the cold. :)

Yes, I do fail at the food blogging. XD

Yes, I do fail at the food blogging. XD

And if you’re wondering, “What’s up with this post?” I’m tiiired. I’m 2 days in to my internship (Yahoo!), and also keeping steady with my other job, and I worked out (for 10 minutes, lol, but so tired. :) )

Have a good, relax-ful night :)


What’s been up in your life lately? Any cool food combos you’ve tried or mile-marks you’ve passed?

What did you grow up reading a lot of? What do you read now?


Recent (Word) Pictures

(I accidentally copied my notes for this post into the Title area, and it said “Cognitive Psych Pants” XD — it made me lol.

It made me think, “Right now is a good time to tell me a joke, because I’m liable to laugh easily!” :D )

Okay, anyways, I begin:

I’m pretty not-so-good at giving compliments, but I was rather happy to be able to do this one easily.

It was for a tweet event with the Foreverists, in honor of Donnie Keshawarz who has been super amazing to everyone tweeting and fighting for Forever, and so we wanted to say so.

I’m not good at compliments and

That’s all she wrote!… That day…

Where was I?

Erm, so yes, I’m not so good at compliments because I’m much better at seeing literal things, and compliments are rarely objective. Therefore one of my favorite things in the world is a mysterious zone to me.

But I did this one, and was so happy because it was true! And yet a compliment, still.

(No, I literally did not realize my compliment was about compliments, until now! And I’m hoping that doesn’t throw my readers off. I was trying to think of things to talk about for #DonnieTheAmazing and why I thought he should be extolled, and that is what came to mind reading over my screen caps in my Forever folder, so at the time it was completely separate – the concept of “complimenting” and “compliments”.)

So, there are these people at a website called A Little Bit of Personality (and off I go on a tangent… in 3, 2, 1!)

This is literally how I start almost all of my conversations. If I instigate it completely – it’s not a reply, follow-up, add-on or linked in any way, and it’s totally my idea, I start off like this.

Years of being yelled at – when I had just started and said 3 words – engrained the very-sure principle of “Subject first”.

So, I say the subject first now. I say the who and the where in the first few words of my new-concept.

But the weird thing is, half the time I do this, somebody starts giggling and looking off in the distance like I have no clue and I’m still messing up. I have NEVER figured this out.

Anyways, tangent over :)

So there are these people at a website called A Little Bit of Personality, and that blog has given me some new info to mull on. As people say, “completely opened my eyes”.

It’s a super-exciting concept. Behavioral versus cognitive psychology.

Oh my gosh!!

Okay, so this really gets my brain happy with several super-novas going on inside, too, with like new info and brain-waves and ideas, but I’ll try to be cohegent. (Doesn’t that sound right for some reason?)

Cognitive psychology says if you are E or I depends on whether you look inside or outside first in your thinking process.

Behavioral psychology is about how you act. Whether or not you are a extravert or introvert behaviorally is about how many people you like to spend your time with and how tired you are after a party.

Ready for the mind-blowing part?

Okay, according to ALBOP – they are completely different.

They’re completely different! According to ALBOP cognitive and behavioral psychology has been mixed together with Kensian, Jungian and MBTI science when the K, J and MBTI ideas were meant to be all about cognition and not behavior.

Interesting… interesting.

Now, I can’t be for-sure, since I have not read those myself (exception Myers-Briggs), but what I really, really, really like about ALBOP’s approach is that –

1. I read some of the Myers-Briggs book. The official thing that is for everything. And it didn’t help or shed light or give clarity at all to me.

2. I’ve been waiting forever for new info on the extrovert/introvert thing ‘cus something just was NOT right about that. I totally don’t care about how many or how few people I spend time with and that doesn’t make sense behaviorally E or I. I feel refreshed after parties – like finally – but due to necessity I’m fine with spending LONG, la-ho-oooong hours alone. :)

3. SHE EMPHASIZES COGNITION! Okay – now I’m gonna assume now that this isn’t going to make sense to others, so it’s really no problem, but it is just such a breath of fresh air, a bright light of sun, a comfy blanket and peanut butter all rolled into one for me.

One of those things that I can’t explain so I really re-he-he-he-he-heally don’t like because I can’t explain or find where it comes from but it is yet there, like my strange love of names and all things names and how I like nicknames, and I love wind, and this is one of those things. (Apparently?)

Human brain facts fascinate me, and I love to absorb all the knowledge that I see about it. Neuroscience: how the stuff phsyiologically moves around in there. Psychology: taking weirdness and making sense of it. Words out of it, even! And I think in this way so much – I think about my thinking and it’s such a cool subject to explore! How do I think about things, how do others think about things why do they think about things in that way!

Oh my gosh! So cool!

So, she when she said, (not a direct quote) “Personality is about how you think, not how you act. All of us are an individual but I want to help you be the best you can be with the way you think and process the world” I was like ding ding ding!

Yes! This is something I agree with!

So, I plan on getting typed by them and I’m so excited and I will finally have a 4 letter code that has nothing to do with my behavior but all about cognition and I’m so happy!

Depending on how it goes, I may recommend them on here. And depending on how it goes, I may make some changes on here.

Being as this is kind of like a personality blog and all. XD (-ish.) And like, maybe it will help me understand why I’m so hesitant with saying some things and how to say some stuff… and other stuff.

So, I went shopping and I bought some new pants. (Badly needed, apparently, because when I was going shopping I asked my shopping-buddies, “Why can’t I just wear these?” and since we’d already found new pants they said, “Because those look like ‘I need new clothes'”…)

They are tan and like pant-pants – not jeans. But they have a secret.

The waist-band looks totally normal and fancy, but it’s actually an elastic band! And they are legit pants made by Lees and called “Style Up” but it’s an elastic waistband! Weird and cool, huh?

Soda Floats

Have you had a root-beer float?

The last time I had one was a long time ago, but I really liked it.

So, suddenly, I had the realization that I had both a soda and an ice-cream I could consume and still have my body be happy with me! Not go into sugar-high or MSG-ey or anything!

It was time for the Breyer’s Natural Vanilla, Virgil’s Sugar-Free Cream Soda Crossover event!!!!

Yup, I did it. It was delicious! So.. that was cool.

And finally, I finally (haha) have a exercise place I can do… thing!

I realize my vocabulary has rather slid a bit since I was here last. My apologies.

Jessica Smith on YouTube has short, practical, body-weight, ‘non-intimidating’, as she says, effective, and totally not-too-hard (no INTENSE. GO GOG OGGO!!! here. *breathe*) but still great for the muscles, exercise videos!! Woot woot.

I did some and I paired it with songs on the Spirit Soundtrack… that was awesome and so cool!

So, those are my word pictures from recently. :)

Hope all is going well and magnificently for you all!


What have been some of your favorite things from the past week (or mental week) for you?


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I’m so excited because working on some really cool ideas/concepts in my brain right now.

If they pass my feel-inspection (too negative…or… can’t-put-my-finger-on-it? but doesn’t feel right?) they’ll get published when I write them! (Very few pass this test… aherm.)

Well, anyways. I’m excited for the hope that I can put down in my brain what is going on… and well, yeah, just write and not forget the abstract concepts that are currently wordless! (This iffy time where if I force words I get one idea down, halfway, but the 2nd and 3rd ideas flit away, but if I let it stay unsolidified I can get it more solid or just forget altogether…)

But I can’t write them right now, because I have to get focus on getting facts into my brain (ie study). And I’m just distracting myself if I write blog posts right now!

Later and have good Friday!!!

(This came up on a “Happy Friday” search on Pinterest. :) )



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