Tonight, BT realised what I realised a couple months ago.
We are not that different.
BT (INTJ) and I (predominate INFP) have amazing similarities!!!
I really bother BT with my quirks (or even normalties), so when we (individually) realized this, it amazed us!!
Let me show you why:
When we really admit what we are feeling, we are feeling the same thing.
We are both very smart, (but quiet about it), on human psychology – we can just see it.
When I started watching the baby, I had a huge learning curve, and had to figure it out. I said stuff to her like, “Why are you always looking at me like you are wondering?”
When BT visited, he said, “Why are you always looking to me for approval?” He also gave her future advice, “Right now we want to hear everything you’re saying! Someday it won’t be like that, and people will just want you to be quiet. But experiment for now. :)”
And I said, “Someday, every little thing you do won’t be cheered. But it’s okay, it’s no less important.”
BT wrote an amazing essay that was pretty abstract, but very logical. He gave it to 2 of his friends, and they returned it without any comments except for, “You had some grammar errors that messed me up, and I didn’t quite get it.”
So, he gave it to me today. “Here.” he said, a little dejectedly.
I read through it. It was amazing! I want to share, but I’ll have to see if he’ll let me. I returned it and said that I thought it was terrific, and awesome. “Did you get it?” he said. “Mm-hmm!” I replied. “Wow! Okay. That’s cool.”
So, tonight, we were watching re-runs of Mythbusters – Men v. Women.
I casually mentioned, “I think it’d be fun if we did that… You know, because we.. like, we’re both careful….”
“And we are both so similar. I’m surprised how we can be so similar. Because I mean…”
“We are so different!” We said in unison.
“Yeah, and we take our time, and try to be precise.” We both agreed that it would be a cool test.
And I wanted to shout, “Alleluia!” because he said, “We’re suprisingly similar!” 😀 So, he saw it, too!