So, that last post explained the concept I’d thought of, but I usually like having a picture or example I can imagine to remember the theory I’m going off of.
For me, I have a few, my first one is a story from my life, but my second or third one is the Bones and Booth scene. So if your curious here it is (my retelling of it, anyway.) (From “The Parts in the Sum of the Whole”)
For a non-abstract example, I likened it to: Bones & Booth after that turning point counseling scene with Sweets. Nearly by accident they discover that Booth is the one who needs to take the first move. His history of gambling hints that he has the guts to put it all out there, and take a risk. Bones knows what’s up in life, and therefore wouldn’t put herself out there like that. (I’m only stating things from their points of view – not my own POV.) So as they walk away from the Jeffersonian, they’re laughing over what happened, and working it around in their heads, when ding, Booth leaps in front of her,
“Bones! I have to take the chance! I’m the gambler!! *pause* So what do you say? Do you want to give it a try? Us?”
Bones starts to see what he means, and can’t hold it in anymore. All the hope she’d ever wanted, all the security and love she ever wanted is being offered to her, right in front of her. And she can’t accept it. The love of her life is offering to love her and she must say no.
“No, Booth. No. I’m never going to be that person you need. I’m never going to open up and be able to make you happy.”
“But I don’t care Bones!”
This goes on, Booth focused on the idea, and Bones, adamant she would do Booth wrong, when Booth walks off, finally begrudging her the final say.
Bones trots up to him, and places her hand in his.
“But we can still, please say, we can still be partners?”
Booth looks at her, disappointment quickly replacing itself with sadness, “I’m going to have to move on. You know that?”
This is what Bones had started to realize from the beginning, what had made the floodgates open, and made her cry. She knows. “I know.”
“Okay. Well, then. Yes. I’m going to have to move on. But we can still be friends.”
Booth gives her hand a squeeze, and they walk off into the D.C. night, and Bones rests her head on Booth’s shoulder.
They both took a risk and made the decision they believed correct.
(If you’re wondering if it works out, it does. Bones is able to let Booth go, with a couple of false starts, and Booth eats his feelings like normal falling fast in love with a pretty reporter who loves danger. Unfortunately she loves danger more than Booth AND Parker and breaks his heart for the 4th and final time. Que my next favorite scene… but anyways. Yes. They’re both able to move on and be friends. 😀 )
Booth took the unexpected opportunity arisen from the counseling session with Sweets, not because it meant he could have a pretty wife, or a mother for Parker, or. or. anything else like that. He took the risk because he legitimatley wanted Bones in his life for the rest of his life.
Bones didn’t take the opportunity, because she believed she would hurt Booth. She felt at that moment if she said yes she was more focused on what Booth could do for her and the opportunity presented than who he was and who they’d be together. A kind of taking the goods and ran thing.
So this is my non-theoretical (although still fictional) example of the concept.