Naturally Dreamy

A blog about my life as an INFP living with an ESFJ, INTJ, and my pup. I blog about earth-friendly living and life through my eyes – not necessarily in that order. Come put your feet up where life is Naturally Dreamy!


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Real Talk with Me :)

I have some thoughts. Some feelings. Things I’ve been trying not to tell people out of concern I’ll come off as nutty. These are some thoughts I’ve been having. This may be more of a ramble, but each subsection has a sorta point to it. 🙂 Feel free to share your recent thoughts, too.

Three years ago, a cashier was nice to me – like over and above nice. I spent a year and a half in limbo, trying to figure out what to do about it. Nobody else knew.

Of course I came to the conclusion that the only sane thing for me to do was to do nothing. Which I solidly did while having my heart stop every time I nearly ran into him, or BT commented on something he did, and scribbling down every time I ran into him in my journal while laughing at myself – because every shopping trip he was there something weird happened.

This January I joined an online dating site, while I have zero interest in dating. This was the year I was going to do things I’d wanted to do, and I’d been curious about these-here dating sites for a while.

As my life usually goes, I messaged one dude who looked really nice, but sent back the wEirDest and most pat messages, and I messaged one dude just to say “hey, there’s a club for that interest, just in case you didn’t know.” He asked me if I liked the dating site, and a couple of other well-thought out questions, and from there an instant acquaintanceship sprang up.

He, BT and I met up and talked for 5 hours in a coffee shop, while rain clouds gathered overhead. The way home was hairy as the rain poured down, and the slick black roads concealed potholes and lane lines, but I was excited about talking to him again.

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Get Re-Psyched Mix

(Title based off HIMYM’s “Get Psyched Mix” Barney planned on playing as they went to a party or parade or something. 🙂 )

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I don’t know how to process other people’s anger when it’s misdirected.

I can usually step inside someone else’s thinking and understand what they are saying, why they are saying and what they are hoping to achieve. If I’m starting to feel hopelessly lost in a conversation, then this is what I’ll do.

But I just can’t get angry people.

What’s the use of being upset that when you click nothing happens?

What’s the point of lashing out at an inanimate object for not working?

Why do you get frustrated and yet keep doing the same thing and just get angrier at it and not yourself?

When people get angry, I see ways around it – I start troubleshooting in these situations, often coming up with several answers. Or cry. Sometimes I’ve cried because of my hair on hopeless days when I feel really down.

What troubles me is that while I’m coming up with answers, they don’t want them.

Angry people are angry at a problem they don’t want to be a problem, but also don’t want a solution to.

This happened earlier, and eventually the thwarted party gave up and decided to go and do something they could do.

Leaving me happy they didn’t push the point, but also not knowing what to feel.

So I decided to play Pandora.

After all, they left so I could start my night and watch a movie, (so we could send it back and get Hogfather), so they at least did not want me sit and wallow in their sorrow…

Hmm…

Solution!: Play Pandora and see if they have some songs to meet my mood and take it elsewhere.

It is my opinion that getting songs that help with this set of circumstances is difficult. So either I’m wrong on this, or Pandora did indeed play a great set for this!

So here is my get Re-Psyched Mix. 🙂

The “For when you aren’t angry, but someone else was, but they don’t want to be angry and they don’t want you to feel that way either” mix.

(Songs in this mixed liked mostly based on melody and sound. Not necessarily genre, or lyrics.)

  1. Red (Taylor Swift – this was perfect!)
  2. Kiss Me (Sixpence None The Richer – probably the weakest one in here, but it still worked. 🙂 )
  3. Bad Day (Daniel Powter)
  4. Chicken-Fried (Zac Brown Band)

I hope you have had a good Monday!!


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Just overflowing with Positivity Over Here

I wasn’t aware of it, but it looks like the universe is telling me I’m taking everything pretty positively. I got a terrific e-mail from my friend, and she mentioned it. I asked BT and I pointed out the most “morbid” and “downer” parts of my sad post, and he was like, well yeah! You NEVER mentioned the fact that she like DIED.

I thought it was pretty funny because I was concerned about being so morose and morbid. I’m glad that it didn’t come off that way – at least to BT.

And my Pandora station is telling me this too.

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He Sees It! INFP’s & INTJ’s Meet in the Middle

Tonight, BT realised what I realised a couple months ago.

We are not that different.

BT (INTJ) and I (predominate INFP) have amazing similarities!!!

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I really bother BT with my quirks (or even normalties), so when we (individually) realized this, it amazed us!!

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Rimfire’s Dental, Before and After

Since I wrote about Rimfire’s looming dental procedure, I thought I would let you know how it went!

This morning, I wrote this:

Today, we will not be graced with Rimfire’s presence for a few hours while he gets some dental work done.

And comes back with a few less teeth. Poor Rimfire 😦 We are thinking of you.

LL will have the house to herself, like she did before he came.

She is using her time wisely – sitting on the couch, uh, like she always does. Sometimes the best way to appreciate the differences is by doing the same thing you always do and seeing how it is different, I think.

I am looking forward to seeing what she does later, though, after she realizes that there is no little terror, I mean terrier, following her around.

Right now I am keeping a stiff upper lip. If I think about it at all, I will fall to tears. Thinking about what he is thinking, thinking about what he’ll feel like afterwards, thinking about my last animal who died after anesthesia, thinking about his fear in his new surroundings. I like to stay stoic in times like these – okay, not unfeeling, just not feeling “cry-ey”. Staying happy and even.

I know it is probably not a good idea… but that is what I have taught myself to do.

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Dog Down Under

I am usually pretty calm. I can control my emotions. I don’t feel anything I don’t want to feel.

But I am freaking out!

Rimfire is pretty much my first pet – I have had oh-so-many animals before him – but he is the first that I have been involved in his life since puppyhood, and the first that is with me all day, everyday, whose care falls primarily into my willing hands.

Actually Rimfire and LL (our beautiful cat) are probably the first pets I will see grow old and die of natural causes.

I don’t really know how I am going to handle it. I don’t know what to do about that. I don’t know how I am going to process this.

A family member has mentioned that they don’t know much about old people because she isn’t really with her old family members, and it’s the same for me. I am hoping I will deal with people and pets growing old, well.

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